Embracing Change
By Santi Meunier

Like the familiar Dylan tune, “the times they are a changing”, Our Sun is a constant. We could not survive without it, and yet our relationship to the Sun changes from day to night and season to season. As winter approaches the days become shorter giving us a longer period of darkness. When spring returns the process reverses itself and the days ever so slowly begin to lengthen and the early light returns.  The election will be here in November after months of debates, accusations and constant television coverage, and whichever way it goes there will be change.  The colors of the trees change seasonally. The sharp crimson and the fiery yellows fade to brown and fall away. The barren limbs hold the frozen rain and snow glistening in the sunlight like diamonds, only to bear buds and brilliant green leaves in the spring.  
Yes, change is constant and very little of it is within our control.

“You can’t step into the same river twice.”

The times are changing. Are we changing with them? When we resist change or try to deny it, we create an atmosphere of fear and uneasiness within us.  As this builds up inside us, the desire to project it out at someone or something grows stronger until we convince ourselves that “they” are to blame.  Being angry at the outside culprit gets us off the hook.  We convince ourselves that we don’t have to change; all we have to do is try to control the supposed problem.  If it can’t be controlled then we can be justifiably angry.  Does this sound familiar?  I know few among us who have not fallen into that trap. Resisting change means that we are resisting growth. We want the safety of the familiar instead of the challenges of the road ahead.  Like the caterpillar that in time must leave the safety of the ground to fly we are constantly being called to become more, to re-create ourselves in a new light. It is necessary for our success.  The failure to change is at the root of our fear of success and our fear of failure. It is a two sided coin with a lot of weight, but no value.

Change is permanent.
The Talmud teaches us that it is human to cling to the familiar but it is also futile. “Would that life were like a shadow cast by a wall or a tree, but it is like the shadow of a bird in flight.”
It is foolish to think that because we don’t want things to change, that our wish will have any effect on the outcome.  Outwardly, things will be what they will be, but inwardly, there is much that we can do to change.  Acceptance is the key to embracing change and the door to success and happiness.  Going with the flow of the new while experiencing the melancholy and grief of what has past allows us to feel fully and bear no scars.  Resistance cuts deeply into our being like a tug of war rope that we refuse to drop even when we know there is no way to win. Let go or be dragged cries the spirit within us! Let go and find the gifts that flow out of the apparent emptiness.

Opportunity is in the new.
Let’s approach the changes in our world with a new attitude, bringing light to all the situations that face us.  Holding close and sharing with those we love both our vulnerabilities as well as our strengths.  The darkness allows us to view the stars and to appreciate the sunshine and the warmth it brings.  Reaching out to those in need as they reach out to us creates a circle with no beginning and no end.  Happiness is not elusive, it is real.  It lives on the positive side of the world and grows in an atmosphere of gratitude and acceptance.  Each one of us has a choice.  There are none among us that are “lucky” but many who are wise. The wise person knows that in all change there is a gift even if it is not apparent at first. If we allow change to mold us, the gifts will emerge, as we too become a gift ourselves.


Dr. Santi Meunier is an author and inspirational speaker, recognized for her unique style of practical spirituality and her ground-breaking strategies for personal and professional growth. Her program, Practical Spirituality for Fearless Living has helped thousands to realize their dreams. As a highly regarded psychotherapist and expert in the field of addiction her latest book, DYING FOR A DRINK, The Hidden Epidemic of Alcoholism reveals her Holographic Treatment Plan, developed over twenty years in private practice.
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