Create The Life You Want, Not The One You Fear
By Santi Meunier

Have you ever wondered where the yellow comes from in tulips or the purple in crocuses?  If you open a tulip bulb before you plant it there is no yellow in there. Where do the colors come from?  The scientific answer doesn’t address the entire question. Yes, DNA determines whether your eyes will be blue or brown, but what makes the color? Who imagined sight? Emerson referred to the transcendent realm or the immanence of the divine in all creation. The physical aspect of us is limited by the laws of the three dimensional world, but the transcendent quality that dwells within each one of us, and ultimately in all living things, has no limitation. We have a unique role in that we humans are able to co-create with this divine force if we choose to. We can design and build skyscrapers, trucks, stylish fashion or a gourmet feast.  Everywhere we look we see the result of our creativity and imagination.

Sadly, creativity can be positive or negative and many people create what they fear without realizing it.  A wise guru once told me, “It is wise to uncover what is in our unconscious mind before it is manifested, and then we have the opportunity to change it.” Whether we are aware of it or not the creative process is always in operation within us.

It is said that our minds make over a million decisions every 24 hour period.  Most of them have a low impact on our lives.  We scratch our foot, turn over in our sleep or eat pasta for dinner, dependent on a thought or feeling. What about the decisions that have long term effects on who we are and what direction our lives will take?  Getting to know who we truly are and finding what is essential to our happiness and well-being are critical.  Too often those questions go unanswered. Maybe we feel that we are too busy dealing with the practical side of life to delve into the mysterious, seemingly impractical part. Life is therefore approached in reaction to outside stimulus instead of inner guidance.
Dag Hammarskjold, former Secretary-General of the United Nations and international peacemaker, kept a spiritual diary that he asked not to be published until after his death.  In it the reader gets a rare glimpse of a fearless thinker who explored the inner depths of his mind so as to create wisely and peacefully.  In one of his writings in 1945 he speaks of the choice each one of us has as to who we will become and what we will create in this lifetime. The course he chose and the attitude he carried with it was succinctly put in his famous words, “For all that has been, Thank-you. For all that will be, Yes!”

Towards New Shores

Every moment we choose ourself.  But do we choose our Self?
Body and soul contain a thousand possibilities out of which we can build many “I Am” s.  But in only one of them is there a congruence of the elector and the elected. It is this  One that we will never find until we have excluded all the superficial and fleeting possibilities of being and doing. It is this busy dance of curiosity, wonder, fear and greed in which we exhaust ourselves, preventing us from casting anchor in a deeper experience of life. The Self and the unique talents entrusted to us which constitute our “I.Am” are left undiscovered, and therefore unfulfilled.

It doesn’t have to be that way.  At any moment we can begin to explore the many possibilities lying within us. Each one of us has the opportunity to choose the “I Am” of  Spirit, service and love. This “I Am” brings blessings to the giver and the receiver, and life is eased and made better because of it.  When we create wisely, everybody wins.

Creating Wisely

To create wisely you must think before you speak.  Make sure what you put the “I am” to is what you really want. This means you no longer give power to appearances, feelings, or past experiences. Stop being identified with your fears and apparent lacks, for example: ‘I am so fat and no matter what I do I can’t lose weight’. This self defeating statement creates from the limitation of “I can’t”. This communicates to your sub-conscious that you are powerless and not responsible for the condition.  This is a lie, but it has the power to create what you fear because you have chosen to believe it.  It is best not to use the phrase, “I can’t”, unless it is something that you want to cement into your life.

Freedom Steps

The first step is to correct the self-defeating statement. Instead of saying the negative affirmation and planting seeds for a limiting self-fulfilling prophecy, adjust the observation to be that of a gentle observer, one that is compassionate and helpful. “I have extra weight on my body that is not helpful to my health and well being.  Just for today I make a commitment to myself to eat only the foods that are most helpful for my body’s performance and vitality”. 

The second step is the most important part to re-creating; vigilance. It requires honesty, and consistency. Throughout the day consciously ask yourself before eating anything, “Is this helpful to my health and well being?”  If the answer is ‘no’ -do not eat it – no matter what- just for today.

The third and final step; stay in the now. It does not matter what your past patterns have been. It does not matter how much weight you have to lose or how long you think it will take. The only thing that matters is are you willing to only eat what is helpful to your health and well being  today.

Good luck and remember that you are so much more than whatever challenge is placed before you. Don’t let fear tell you who you are.  If you follow these simple steps you will begin to free your self from limitation and discover in the process, the hidden Self that has been waiting patiently to be born.

Author and speaker Dr. Santi Meunier is recognized for her unique style and her ground-breaking strategies for personal and professional growth. Her program, Practical Spirituality for Fearless Living has helped thousands to enrich their lives and realize their dreams.
For more information visit


Dr. Santi Meunier - Dying for a Drink


Dr. Santi Videos
Corporate Sales Talk
Overcoming the Fear
of Success

Alcoholism Talk based on,
Dying for a Drink


All Contents © 2008
Dr. Santi Meunier
Dr. Santi :: Home Contact :: Dr. Santi